Welcome to Co-Dependent Me
Healing my Co-Dependency starts with Me!
Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life!
That's so cliche, but true! Are you ready to learn more about co-dependency, recovery, and how to have healthier relationships? Check out the page, take your time. I hope you enjoy my site and take a moment to drop us a line.
What is codependency?
Co-Dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as the “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.
In layman's terms a co-dependent person is someone who is a people pleaser, the fixer, and puts others' needs before theirs even in their detriment.
What are the Characteristics of a codependent?
Five Charcteristics of Co-Dependent Behavior
Below you'll see five Characteristics of a Co-Dependent person as well as tips on how to live a more balanced life. I hope it is helpful. Please contact me if you'd like to give feedback or like certain content on this site.
- You tend to try to rescue people. In hopes of receiving love, approval, or to be accepted.
- Use manipulation or guilt to control others behavior so things will look the way you want them to be seen.
- You are extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
- You make excuses for others bad behavior. Rationalizing and blaming others for poor choices.
- You are embarrassed to receive recognition, praise, or gifts.
Ten Questions to ask about Co-Dependent Behavior
Ten Questions
- Do you avoid confrontation?
- Do you neglect your needs to attend to another's first?
- Do you accept verbal or physical abuse by others?
- Do you take responsibility for the actions of others?
- Do you feel shame when others make mistakes?
- Do you do more than your share at home, work, or in an organization?
- Do you need others' validation to feel good about yourself?
- Do you think everyone's feelings are more important than your own?
- Do you suffer from low self esteem?
- Do you have a hard time asking for help?
Our Platforms
Hello, My Name is Tamala, I'm a Co-Dependent Recovery Coach!
I was diagnosed with Co-Dependency over a decade ago. I was in therapy because my life was spiraling out of control and at the forefront was a failing marriage. At the time I didn't know anything about Co-Dependency. I started reading books, searching the web, and found a Co-Dependency Anonymous meeting. In search of healing. I graduated
I was diagnosed with Co-Dependency over a decade ago. I was in therapy because my life was spiraling out of control and at the forefront was a failing marriage. At the time I didn't know anything about Co-Dependency. I started reading books, searching the web, and found a Co-Dependency Anonymous meeting. In search of healing. I graduated from Radiant Coaches Academy as a certified life coach. I specialize in the area of Co-dependency. It's my mission to use my teaching and life lessons, to give a more holistic look at the recovery of co-dependency.
I co-authored the book "God Turned Mommy’s Wine into Water", with my mom (sold @ amazon.com) , and I host a podcast about co-dependency, named "The Co-Dependent Me Podcast"!
My Services
I offer one-on-one coaching sessions, group coaching, workshops and retreats. My areas of expertise include boundary and reparenting, stress management, relationship coaching, and personal development. Contact me today to learn more about my services.
Join our group on Facebook: Co-Dependent Me
Join our group on Facebook: Co-Dependent Me
Our Co-Dependent Me group on Facebook is a nonjudgmental group to support people with codependency. We guide and share healthy ways to have boundaries and live a happier life.
*if you're using your app just look up co-dependent me and you'll find us!!!
History Behind Co-Dependents Anonymous
Resource: https://www.recovery.org/forums/discussion/414/the-story-behind-co-dependents-anonymous
Everyone has heard about Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous but have you ever heard of Co-Dependents Anonymous? If you have heard of it did you think it was real? It is very real. Just like AA and NA, CoDA is a fellowship group made up of both genders with a common goal of building healthy relationships.
CoDA uses the 12 Step Model and has only altered the first step by changing the word alcohol to others. Former members of AA, known as Ken and Mary founded CoDA in 1986 in Phoenix. They liked the concept of the AA model but wanted something that dealt with codependent behaviors. There were only 30 people at the first CoDA meeting but within just a year there were 120 groups organized across the country and in a decade thousands of groups had been established.
Currently, CoDA is still active and recognized, although they have decreased in size. Now, there are a couple thousand groups on a global basis. Support is also available online and via phone. All things shared are held in strict confidence and trust. Meetings consist of a group of people that share experiences and feelings. CoDA is a spiritual program but many attend that have no belief in God. They do refer to God as their Higher Power. Meetings of an hour or so do end with the Serenity Prayer.
If you are a codependent, you are not alone. Codependents do have hope when they realize that help is available. Most codependents don’t even realize they are unhappy while others are dying inside. Just know that a beautiful life awaits you on the other side and all you have to do is reach for the help.
